How to Help Your Sexually Addicted Spouse
I have been asked by many folks how they can help their sexually addicted spouse. For this reason, I have put together a checklist of the basics you can do to help your partner who is a sex addict.
It can be really difficult to tell if your partner has a sex addiction or not due to the addict trying to hide the behavior or the insensitivity of the other partner but with enough sensitivity and the discovery of a few signs/symptoms, a partner would know. You can help your addictive partner by
- Talk with your partner: Always remember that it is often difficult for addicts to talk about their disorder/problem with anyone but as a partner as soon as you notice any of the sign and symptoms earlier stated, tell you partner about your concerns, ask them questions, try to relate with addict’s issues as much as possible because for him/her to start or even recover at all he/she must first admit to having a problem and from there you as a partner would be able to determine your next line of action.
- Accept him/her: If after the discovery of your partner’s status, you choose to stay with him or her, accept him/her without spite.
- Understand your own feelings: It is okay to be hurt and feel betrayed when a sex addicted after all it’s a betrayal of the relationship’s trust. Understand that you will be upset and have lasting feelings of overwhelming emotions that you will need to work on.
- Be gentle, loving, patient and forgive him/her so that you can enjoy a healthy relationship.
- Therapy: Get him/her to therapy so as to gain recovery from the disorder. Ideally, if the addict is committed to recovery, you as a partner should go to therapy in the same place he/she receives it (with a supportive psychotherapist in the treatment of sexual addiction.) go through all the processes together.
How Do I Help my Once Sexual Addicted Spouse to live free
Do you have a sex addicted partner or are you looking to help your non sex addict partner live free of sexual addiction? You should:
- Love, care for and respect him/her
- Stress/Anxiety Management: Since one of the causes of sex addiction is stress and anxiety, you should understand your partner enough to be able to determine when they are anxious about anything or under stress and further help him/her to manage this in a healthy way.
- Communication: This is very important for any relationship to thrive. So frequently talk about sex as to how it affects you both, individually and in your relationship.
- Understand your partner’s sexual needs and desires, try as much as possible to help them satisfy these needs and desires.
- Avoid Pornography: Make sure your partner isn’t given to watching pornography because it might result in challenges in your sexual life if it doesn’t live up to the expectations gotten from pornography.
- Seek help when necessary: going together to therapy at a professional’s. Either personal or group therapy, get the help of a professional when it is required.
I hope this article helps. If you have any questions or suggest on ways you can help your spouse who is struggling with sex addiction, use our comment area. Thank you.